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St Patrick's Catholic Church, Sonora, CA
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Sonora is a quaint little city.
(had to cogitate a moment to come up with the proper descriptive term)
It has some historic significance in the
California Gold Rush and is the county seat for Tuolumne County.
(go ahead and try to wrap your tongue around Tuolumne without assistance)
There is still much of the charm
[sic] from when it was established in about 1850.
One day I want to revisit when I have some time to explore that part of California.
It's funny how we can digress.
We'd left Anderson early so there'd be plenty of time for the 250 mile journey, so we arrived well before the 4pm funeral.
That was a good thing because the small parking lot(s) at the church we filling quickly.
A lot of folks had the same idea we did.
Many of them, too, had traveled some distance.
I dropped off some photos I had from when I'd made my original acquaintance with Rich.
(your were told his name before, right?)
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Rich Mueller, Skip O'Brien, Paul Smith
graduation day from basic training at San Diego |
The three of us went from boot camp to Radar School at San Francisco.
Although none of us went on to serve on the same ships, we did have a few further adventures, but that is another story . . .maybe.
Did I digress again?
The photos were displayed on a table in the building shown to the left and downhill from the church.
I had a brief opportunity for a short conversation with Mary, Rich's widow.
Besides my Lions Club President she was the only other person there who knew me.
The funeral mass was a true celebration of life and, while there was an underlying sadness, it was upbeat and positive.
It's a good thing because it lasted 90 minutes.
(I miss the days of the Latin mass when the priest could speed through in about 30 minutes)
The youngest brother gave a brilliant eulogy that was both humorous and poignant.
Everyone then went to the
entry of the church and blocked the doorway parish hall for the reception.
It was catered and food was served almost immediately.
There were at least 100 people, probably a lot more.
I didn't bother to count, but they pretty much filled the huge hall.
I should mention here that many of them are postmasters or former postmasters.
I digress again.
Mary is a retired postmaster.
Postmasters have an entire organization the gathers regularly on a regional, state, and national level.
They are much like the fraternal organizations in that they include the entire family in their gatherings, to the point of having a spouses auxiliary and a youth auxiliary.
So everyone knows everyone else and they build long term friendships.
My Lions Club President is a retired postmaster and had known Rich and Mary for a number of years.
There were also a number of folks Rich had worked with.
He'd been in sales.
My pop said Rich could sell ice makers to the eskimos.
Pop wasn't always
PC.
Rich had made a name for himself selling vacuum cleaners.
(yeah, yeah I'm scratching my head, too)
The vacuum cleaner people have conventions, too, and they make friendships.
So there were a lot of vacuum cleaner salesmen there, too.
And there were neighbors and former neighbors.
When I say neighbors I have to mention that Rich and Mary have a condo in Maui, Kihei to be more specific.
Neighbors from Hawaii were there.
I mentioned earlier that the younger brother, Bob, had given the eulogy.
I had met him before, but he was still in diapers and not yet even walking at the time.
He recognized my name but didn't remember me and I really didn't expect him to.
Mary took a microphone and thanked everyone for attending.
Then she took it around the room a put some folks on the spot by asking them to share a story or two.
(some folks, particularly vacuum cleaner salesmen, shouldn't necessarily be offered and open mike)
Those speaking told how they knew Rich, where they were from, and then related a brief tale.
I spoke for a few moments.
I opened by telling everyone the difference between a sea story and a fairy tale, and started out, "So, there I was..."
Then I told how, even though he was really tired, Rich had gotten up on a Sunday morning in January 1962 to show my kid sisters how to build a snowman on the front lawn at my parents home.
(it probably snows enough for a snowman about once every 30 years there)
That's the kind of man Rich was.
If he had something to share and he was able, he did it.
It's why he was a true friend . . .for 54 years.
Fair winds and following seas, friend.
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| he really didn't change much in 54 years |
'til we meet on Fiddler's Green
*What’s the difference between a fairy tale and a sea story? A fairy tale starts with “Once upon a time” and a sea story starts with “So there I was”.
(that previous line paraphrases another blogger's tagline)